Okay, so I might seem like I am being a tad dramatic. But eventually, the stress of wedding planning gets to everyone, even the most well prepared. Engagement and wedding planning is a beautiful but very emotional time. It is sometimes hard to have a constant flow of inspiration through all of the changes and stresses. Sometimes, you never want to hear about cake again (I know, it's hard to believe). You might not ever want to hear the words 'guest list' or 'seating chart' or 'dress shopping' again. Sometimes, you will just want to call the whole thing off and elope to an exotic location. So how do you keep your inspiration and your cool head?
Here are some of our favourite ways to kick-back, forget about any wedding planning (or any other) stresses, and re-gain inspiration and excitement:
- Get some fresh air and sunshine!
- Read a book or magazine that has nothing to do with weddings. At all.
- Bake something.
- Take a hot bubble bath.
- Watch your favourite childhood movie.
- Do your nails.
- Call your Maid of Honour and have a totally non-wedding related girls night. Don't talk about the wedding. At all. Ever. Just don't do it.
- Ask your mom (or trusty Maid of Honour, or bridesmaid) to field all wedding related calls for a day or two and tell you about them after a specific amount of time.
- Light a candle.
- Have a glass of wine.
- Sing loudly.
- Go for afternoon tea at a tea house.
- Take a nap.
- Treat yourself to something you've wanted for a long time.
- Clean your engagement ring (most will be good with a 3 part water 1 part detergent solution, but double check online or with a trusted jewler first!)
- Get dressed up for no reason.
- Eat diner food. Milkshakes are always good for the soul.
- Go for a run.
- Deep breathing excersies.
- Write a journal entry.
- Buy a new journal (to write your journal entry in. Also, new journals are amazingly inspiring.)
- Organize yourself. Make lists and appointments so that there are no surprises during your wedding planning.
- Take one day off a week from wedding planning--don't take wedding related phone calls, don't have any wedding related meetings, etc. Have this be a set day (i,e, every Sunday.)
- Don't forget, before she was your Maid of Honour/Bridesmaid, she was your friend/sister, and you did talk about other things than your wedding. Take the time to let your maids know that you love and appreaciate them. Spend some time with them; have a phone call, a movie night, a spa day. Anything (just make sure it is simple and doesn't require too much planning)
- It's the same with your honey--your fiance would probably be incredibly happy to spend some time with you that is not wedding related whatsoever (especially near the end of your wedding planning stages). Don't forget, after the wedding comes the marriage. Don't get so caught up in the wedding that spending quality time with your sweetheart gets lost.
- Don't think about wedding planning or do any wedding planning related tasks while at school or work. Always be present in the moment that you are in right now. Fully experience it.
- Remember, you can do anything BUT NOT EVERYTHING. Give yourself a break--you're not superwoman (at least not all the time)
- Use a face mask
- Eat dark chocolate (a great mood stabliizer)!
- Tell someone how you've been feeling. Vent, sister, vent!
- Drink a latte
- Frequent a bookstore
- Watch a race (horse race, car race, etc. We love going to these because we are so competitive and they are so intense that we forget about everything else for a few minutes while we root for our car/horse of choice. Also there is lots of good junk food there.)
- Go to a concert/comedy night/musical
- Spend some time with your mom
- Spend some time with your dad
- Look at baby pictures of your fiance
- Redecorate (this can be simple; i.e. add a new picture on the wall, get a new chair, a new duvet cover, a new rug. Paint one wall, all the walls. Rearrange the furniture. Anything goes! A new space is great for regaining inspiration)
- Say a prayer.
- Have a mantra to recite to yourself when things get really stressful (for example, if you are really struggling with perfectionism in your wedding, you can tell yourself 'nothing is perfect but everything is beautiful' over and over again).
- Go out of your way to be nice to a stranger. Random Acts of Kindness are so good for your soul. That is about as inspiring as it gets.
- Put away your phone, computer, tablet. Don't take calls. Don't check email. Don't. Have some time for yourself that is undivided.
- Get away from the screen. Those headaches! Your poor eyes!
- Go ice skating (or rollerblading)
- Have a dinner party. Planning something else will help get your mind off wedding plans.
- Do something that scares you (it will help you forget about wedding planning! Trust us on this.)
- Learn about weddings in a different culture. You will get some great ideas, and since they are so unique they will bring you so much inspiration.
- Don't forget--everything will turn out beautifully.
If you're really overwhelmed you might want to consider hiring professional vendors--they are trained to save you time, money and stress. While it may seem like a lot of money to dish out, it is probably the best way to relax and get the best results for your wedding day! For any advice/tips feel free to shoot us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org we are always here for you beautiful people!
We hope these help you during wedding planning or any life stress that you might be facing! Don't forget to count your blessings and enjoy life! Wedding planning isn't everything. Rememebr what brought you here--love. Enjoy your Sunday beautiful!
With Sweet Love,
Vanessa + Miray